posted by a. person

Aug 07, 2007 12:49PM

god, i knew this blog was bad, but this post shows how ugly you really are. and i mean come on, everyone always laughs at you faran when you go out. trust me on this.

posted by flypaper

Aug 07, 2007 12:50PM

you can't ever tell, because women can be horribly catty when it comes to clothes.

posted by praline

Aug 07, 2007 1:06PM

um, meow much?

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 1:06PM

dude, you parade around in unflattering outfits and gym-teacher hair.

your self-hatred is boiling over.

posted by Amsterdam

Aug 07, 2007 1:07PM

I have to say I agree with the first comment. My mouth dropped open at this post! I know fashion is inherently superficial in some ways but you sound horrible and mean. Just try and be nice. Leave people with fake bags alone and mind your own business.

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 1:07PM

hey, a. person, don't be so sensitive. clearly she's just talking about something that loads of people do but don't talk about. try reading perez, he makes faran look like a peach.

posted by La Van

Aug 07, 2007 1:08PM

Good lord. If someone is wearing something dreadful, everyone knows that the proper thing to do is snicker about it discreetly, not go up to the person and act like a meanie. You think the person can't tell? Who raised you people.

And what about the concept of "so wrong it's right"? If I go up to a kooky-looking person with a compliment on his or her outfit, rest assured it's sincere.

As for faux-complimenting people with faux purses, you must have an awful lot of free time on your hands, eh?

posted by meg

Aug 07, 2007 1:09PM

um, ouch. faran, did you really write this? you always seem like a decent person. so the next time someone says you look nice, do they actually mean you look like a rabbit with curls...?

posted by SM

Aug 07, 2007 1:13PM

Don't shoot the messenger, guys.

posted by marisha

Aug 07, 2007 1:14PM

Wow a person, for someone who takes offense at the post your comment is not exactly well-mannered.

When you're talking to someone who is wearing a bold outfit it sometimes seems almost obligatory to comment on it. Maybe that's where some of this reverse-complimenting comes from. But I agree that it's despicable.

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 1:14PM

Faran: you may have the attitude of regina george - but you definitely don't have the good looks...please, don't dish it out if you can't take it.

posted by K.

Aug 07, 2007 1:18PM

Can't we make critical comments about the post without demeaning someone's physicality? If not, we're no better than the bitchiness the post points out.

posted by Whatever bitch

Aug 07, 2007 1:20PM

Wow, this is exactlly the kind of bs that we dealt with in college. You are no longer in high school or college Faran, grow the hell up. Honestly, this made me want to stop reading fashionista. Bitch.

posted by ks

Aug 07, 2007 1:21PM

the difference between faran and perez is that he is HONEST about how he feels about people & their clothes.

It's sad that you find joy in another's missteps.

posted by anais

Aug 07, 2007 1:27PM

wow. what a mean post. faran, i thought better of you.

posted by sistahgirl

Aug 07, 2007 1:28PM

wow, poor faran.

anyway, i have been guilty of the false 'nice outfit' comment, bc sometimes its so obvious that someone put a lot of effort into their look, and maybe it didn't come out right. i don't relaly think that's bitchy, i kind of see it as being ... merciful?
that being said, i was at a costume party once, wearing an awfully funny spandex costume that was as unflattering as it was hideous only to have the biggest bitch at the party (who needs to gain about 20 lbs..in a hospital environment) come over to me and tell me 'cute outfit, let me take your picture' and when i politely declined, she started snapping away. the next morning, 4 pictures had been posted of me on her fbook account. now that's a bitch.

posted by Zoë

Aug 07, 2007 1:29PM

Actually, many of you are being pretty indecent. First off, let me state that no one is forcing you to read this.
Second off, I wonder how many of YOU are actually honest. And wouldn't it hurt more to the person if someone told them how heinous their outfit actually is?

Don't hate on Faran, she's just practicing investigative journalism. Now stop hiding behind your "Anonymous" status and come out with what you have to say as yourself. It's pretty much the same thing as pretending to love someone's outfit you actually loathe.

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 1:30PM

i love faran i think she's really cute. you people don't know.

posted by chick3

Aug 07, 2007 1:35PM

Whatever. I completely agree with this post. I mean SERIOUSLY who hasn't told a girl with a freshly hideous cut that she looks fabulous?! What are you suppose to do.. not comment on the cut? It just pops out! Same goes for a new gross outfit that someone is parading around in. Since when does fashions savvy = sweet?
Plus, if you would have to be "good-looking" to make comments on fashion than caroline roitfeld would have to be quiet because lets face it, she's a brilliantly sexy fashion icon with not so cute of a face... and I'm not referring to Faran, just the stupid "argument" further above.

posted by Faran

Aug 07, 2007 1:35PM

Perfect. This post proved what it was meant to - that we all talk about people's appearance behind their back (or on their blog, if one can hide behind the "anonymous" veil).

We brought up this issue so it could be discussed openly and honestly.

And if I don't admit that I have this private joke with my friend about her assistant's outfits, how would I expect any of you to admit your own fashion faults either?

Keep thinking about it, but I do like the idea of "gym teacher hair" - thuogh I suppose that means it couldn't be long and blonde and curly anymore, which is sort of a bummer.

Maybe for Spring '08.

posted by amandabug

Aug 07, 2007 1:36PM

i'm surprised about this post too.
to be clear: and this isn't investigative journalism; that requires reporting and facts, not anecdotes.

i've never done the faux-compliment thing to anyone, because i wouldn't want someone to do that to me. i don't think you have to lie to someone just to get a closer look. just saying "how interesting! -- because you are indeed interested -- and go in for the inspection. if the person is expecting some comment about the item (or outfit) you can honestly say what it reminds you of or some other obvious comment about its color ("wow, that's really bright!") or size ("that thing is huge") instead of lying.

this post just made me second-guess every compliment i ever received on my clothes or my looks.

posted by ChicandUntroubled

Aug 07, 2007 1:37PM

You have got to be kidding me. Some of you need to get a damn life. But don't fret! I'm sure there are medicines out there for you guys :)

posted by Michelle

Aug 07, 2007 1:37PM

Faran has amazing hair and she seems like a decent person -- why not just comment on the post and not rip her apart? Relax a bit; there is no need to be mean.

posted by Tanya M

Aug 07, 2007 1:39PM

Faran, I always thought you were an ugly bitch. Glad to know the inside matches the outside.

And no, I've never gone up to a complete stranger and gave them a "reverse clothing compliment". That's what dumb bitches do.

Even if I don't like a friend's outfit, I give suggestions on how to make it better.

Faran, check yourself.

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 1:39PM

I work in the 'industry', and this post reminds me of exactly what I hate about it. It crosses the line to mock your assistant behind her back everyday while she does your dirty work. I find the nastiest people in this industry usually possess the least amount of talent.

posted by arcadia

Aug 07, 2007 1:40PM

i think this has little to do with honesty and more to do with manners! who am i to tell someone their outfit is heinous? i'm not some omnipotent fashion goddess.

if someone feels good about what they are wearing then that's all that matters, damn the so called fashion elite! fashion is in the eye of the beholder. i don't feel the need to be catty by putting someone down in order to pick myself up. it's called maturity.

i like you Faran, i think you are adorable but this was a bad call.

posted by anais

Aug 07, 2007 1:40PM

not 'everyone' does the back-handed compliment. it's called manners. and how do you stop? just keep your mouth shut.

posted by Zoë

Aug 07, 2007 1:41PM

Of course it's investigative, she's INVESTIGATING awful ensemble choices.
And then it's journalism, well, because she's reporting it. Here. On Fashionista.com

posted by Tanya M

Aug 07, 2007 1:42PM

"Perfect. This post proved what it was meant to - that we all talk about people's appearance behind their back (or on their blog, if one can hide behind the "anonymous" veil).

We brought up this issue so it could be discussed openly and honestly.

"
Horseshit. You brought it up expecting a ki-ki laugh and instead it backfired. No one thought it was funny.

posted by meh

Aug 07, 2007 1:42PM

I hate to go there, but this is what happens when people take fashion too seriously. Get some manners, you silly, stupid girl.

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 1:42PM

hmm i'm surprised this upset people so much to be honest. i don't do the fake compliment thing but i know PLENTY of girls who do. i guess its the i'm-staring-at-your-outfit/hair/etc-so-i-better-say-something mentality. but, who cares!? if you love your outfit thats really all that matters, look at all the people who think of mary-kate as a freak, i think she has awesome fashion sense - its a matter of taste, who cares what other people think about everything? if everyone wore the same thing fashion would never change or progress. and even the people who are wayy off base, i find them a bit endearing...

99% of bitchiness comes from jealousy in any case girls!

posted by e

Aug 07, 2007 1:43PM

Sorry, not everyone can afford to keep up to you ladies, nor do we have access to freebies and inside deals. Girl hate is shitty and how would you feel knowing people openly discussed how bad you looked and what fashion victims you were (ahem--turbans made out of underwear and shiny hotpants). I mean, just because you are so over WHITE RAY BANS doesn't mean the rest of the world must keep pace with you.

posted by Cassette Love

Aug 07, 2007 1:45PM

"Don't hate on Faran, she's just practicing investigative journalism."

The funniest thing in this whole post.

Caring enough to go out of one's way to fake-compliment just seems so utterly insecure- the mindset of the bored-and-boring.

As to the question, "how can you tell when someone's being sincere when you wear your boldest outfit?"

Easy. Truly confident women don't care either way.

posted by La Van

Aug 07, 2007 1:46PM

Faran said: "This post proved what it was meant to - that we all talk about people's appearance behind their back (or on their blog, if one can hide behind the "anonymous" veil)."

But Faran, your original post didn't strictly mention talking about people behind their backs (which, I agree, we all do) so much as telling someone that you love her outfit when in fact you are mocking it.

It's surely not nice to snicker behind someone's back, but then again, what people don't know won't hurt them ... lying to someone's face is a totally different level of cruel. You may think the person can't tell what you're doing, but I wouldn't be so sure.

Also, to be perfectly honest, your friend's assistant sounds like a fabulous, nutty girl. I'd be sincerely looking forward to her daily overdone-trend mashups, not faux-complimenting them like some kind of big ole beeyotch. Way for your friend to be a kind-hearted boss to her very own assistant.

bah, the whole thing makes me sad.

posted by HeatherChandler

Aug 07, 2007 1:47PM

I've never done the faux compliment. I just ignore the person's faux pas and share with a friend later - that's human.

But to make the effort to actually compliment the person that's not only mean but childish, arrogant and condescending.

Any person that would do such a thing probably has a history of torturing small helpless woodland animals with pin needles, lighter fluid and matches.

posted by Lauren

Aug 07, 2007 1:51PM

Sorry about 'the "anonymous" veil' before - I never post but I do love the blog, usually. Faran is a big girl, I'm sure she can handle nasty remarks as she publicly disses assistants busting their asses to make it in this industry.

posted by Magda

Aug 07, 2007 1:53PM

Way to show the world that there's more to women than the catty, judging and petty stereotype!

posted by canary

Aug 07, 2007 1:53PM

Being bitchy about someone's outfit behind their back - or passive-aggressively to their face - isn't a "fashion fault", it's a character fault. And no, you don't have to say their outfit is heinous, or pretend to love it, you can just keep quiet.

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 1:55PM

arrogant. jealous. insecure.

oh i forgot the best one...'gym teacher hair'

LOVE IT. the comments are better than the posts! Faran: you should be paying these people for entertainment

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 1:55PM

Fart-ran should apologize for her poor behavior instead of trying to take the high road on this one.

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 1:56PM

Hey Faran, I love your breath!

posted by nadia

Aug 07, 2007 2:01PM

i dont see why a a faux compliment is so bitchy...it make the person who put a lot of effort into their outfit feel good. so why is it so mean?

posted by nadia

Aug 07, 2007 2:02PM

i dont see why a a faux compliment is so bitchy...it make the person who put a lot of effort into their outfit feel good. so why is it so mean?

posted by lily

Aug 07, 2007 2:04PM

I've never posted before but am on here daily like you all I'm sure. This post makes me seriously question my time spent here. Usually it feels fun but now I feel like the joke is on me. From a business standpoint I would consider deleting this post so other people don't have to read it.

posted by Geneva

Aug 07, 2007 2:06PM

I have to say, I've never done this. I've definitely talked about people's outfits behind their back, but if I don't like what someone is wearing, I just don't mention it in conversation. Or I find something about it that I do like, and mention that. Even someone who looks a mess usually has something on that's interesting.

Or I talk about something else.

posted by Laura

Aug 07, 2007 2:07PM

Nadia, it's bitchy because, for the people this post is about, it's meant to be bitchy.

I think you can definitely compliment a friend's outfit or hair cut or bag that you don't like, if you do it to uplift her and make her feel good about making a bold, interesting, or hard to pull of choice.

But this is all about seeking out an outfit you think looks like shit and making a compliment that is an outright lie. That's called being a stupid cunt with low self esteem and too much time on her hands.

posted by david

Aug 07, 2007 2:10PM

well...i think it's funny. har har!

posted by QT

Aug 07, 2007 2:13PM

I can tell people do this to me when I am wearing my homemade Cushman bracelets. But fuck them, what do they know?

posted by brendastarlet

Aug 07, 2007 2:14PM

No, either way -- I wouldn't pay them a false compliment and I also wouldn't tell them they look hideous, either. I was taught that it's kinder to simply overlook such things: if they don't know it, they're better left in the dark, and if they do know it, well, then, that's the look they've decided to adopt and I'll just absorb it.

posted by kelly

Aug 07, 2007 2:21PM

wow. how incredibly mean. paying false compliments are always obvious to the person on the recieving end...faux Chanel or not.

posted by QT

Aug 07, 2007 2:30PM

Jesus, do you guys even read what you write? At least try and point out the problems you have with this post instead of attacking Faran's alleged physical deficiencies, otherwise your argument falls flat on its lame hot pants swathed ass.

All anyone is proving here is that girls are bitchy to each other. Um, duh?

posted by h

Aug 07, 2007 2:31PM

Rather than making a false compliment to someone to "be polite" or to make conversation, I hold my tongue until I can genuinely compliment them on a piece that I truly like. That's being polite and it reinforces the good fashion choices that person makes.

Life's too short to be catty for any reason (although we all fall to the temptation). The reason why it's funny when Regina George or Heather Chandler (the character, not the poster) backhand compliment someone in a movie is because we know they're evil and up to no good.

Those of you who are posting at how bitchy the post is are being just as bitchy, you're just being more up front about it. That doesn't make it right.

You don't have to give a false compliment to get a better look at an odd fashion choice, you could just genuinely stop to talk to someone, about anything. Or is it that you would rather not be seen talking to someone wearing something that you find fugly? Everyone posting on this is being a little hypocritical, and that's the real meaning of the post. At least Faran owned up to it, whether we agree with her tactics or not.

posted by Ali

Aug 07, 2007 2:33PM

I agree with Lily. I frequent the site every day for updates on the modeling/fashion world and for the trivial entertainment it provides. Sure, fashion isn't everything but it's fun to acquire the tidbits of 'knowledge' doled out by Faran.

But I don't know if I can stand for such senseless cruelty. So what if that girl's bag was a fake Chanel? More power to her for being able to incorporate it into her outfit and for stepping out on the town with confidence. She may not have had the money to buy a real Chanel but at the end of the day, who is going to remember how many so-called "real" items you own?

People will remember instead how many catty and cruel comments you said about someone rather than the authenticity of your bag. This is all really pathetic.

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 2:37PM

Hmm. This is really gross and weird to read. I think the post was out of line, and I agree with all the people who said it's meanspirited for a professional to laugh at her well-intentioned and hardworking assistant, but you're only proving Faran's point by ripping into her personally.

I can't imagine having the time or energy to faux-complient someone. A real lady believes that if you don't have anything nice to say...well, you know the rest.

Anyway, I dislike Faran 90% of the time as well, but so many of the comments are equally nasty and Mean Girl-esque.

Boys would never behave this way.

They'd just be sure to punch first.

posted by katie

Aug 07, 2007 2:49PM

gofugyourself.com is way, way, way too popular for this to not be worth discussing.

I actually have done this, but not in a Regina George-y way:

There's a really sweet girl in my office who looks kinda nerdy and has horrible fashion sense, and the girls who wear nothing but tight black outfits with their fake boobs and hair extensions (don't get me wrong--they look hot; they just all kinda look the same) always make fun of her...so whenever she's wearing something that she seems to have spent some time putting together, I always compliment her on it, whether I think it's tacky or not.

Also: I have been in situations that I think may be similar to this assistant one. My sister has very suburban taste, and mine is very...city girl-ish. Sometimes my other sister and I laugh at the differences between our taste and hers, but if anyone else made fun of how she looked, I'd be pissed.

I guess my point is that if it comes from an affectionate, mildly condescending place, then it's not AS bitchy. It still sucks, but it's not cruel. And most of us do it.

Also: some of you guys are real asshats. Seriously. I mean, some of the Fashionista interns get on my nerves on occasion, but...damn.

And Faran: You're adorable, you work WITH your think, curly hair instead of against it, and you seem reasonable and sweet. Please don't let the comments you're getting on this keep you from posting about things like this in the future.

posted by h

Aug 07, 2007 2:54PM

katie: I was going to try to work Go Fug Yourself into my previous post, but then I realized something: They're not complimenting the outfits, they're pointing out the flaws. They do compliment people when they think they've done something right. They're very upfront about it. And, they're hardly anonymous. It doesn't take much internet research to find their real names and various writing posts.

P.S. did you mean to use the word condescending? It kind of deflates your argument (that otherwise I think I agree with).

posted by crankypants

Aug 07, 2007 2:57PM

Wow. People don't believe how rotten/narrow-minded/outright hateful fashion people can be when I try to explain some of the stuff I've seen in this business. In the future, I'll just direct them to this post. Thanks for Exhibit A, Faran. Ugly Betty, much?

Unless of course this post was meant to generate traffic on an otherwise slow news day...Do you get paid per hit to the site? In which case, you probably have more than enough for two ultra-original fashion-forward F21 dresses. Congrats.

PS: WWIBD: would Isabella Blow dole out faux compliments? I never had the opportunity to meet her but somehow I doubt it.

posted by katie

Aug 07, 2007 3:06PM

h:

I meant to use "condescending," but not in a really negative way--I meant it as...like...well, Faran's friend at the magazine probably knows a great deal about fashion, so to her, watching her assistant show up tryng to impress people with her completely un-subtle style choices may be like...well, like watching a kitten try to climb stairs, you know? It's really cute and endearing right now, and you know that it'll eventually be a cat and bounding up them two at a time. But that's a condescending way of looking at the girl.

posted by joana

Aug 07, 2007 3:08PM

i'm not hating on you faran, because i am not going to be rude when there's no need to be.

that said, isn't beauty in the eye of the beholder? i honestly just find it rude and mean to faux compliment people to get a better view of somthing you may dislike/make fun of. it just seems bitchy and cruel. and just because everyone else does it does it mean you need to?

i always stick with the motto, if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all. oh sure i may think 1001 things in my head and chuckle to myself but i'm not going to call the person out on it. after all who am i, or you, or anyone else to do so?

that said i can almost understand how some people can get caught up in that frame of mind in the fashion industry, but considering your a smart woman do you think you want to?

posted by nadarine

Aug 07, 2007 3:08PM

Clearly, the vast majority of commenters are perfect, saintly people who have never, ever indulged in pettiness and bitchy comments. Ever.
I don't do the fake-compliment thing (it's just too much work to seem sincere if I really hate something), but yes, I do make copious mental notes on whatever part of the outfit I hate, and then relay its details to a friend in a gossipy, indulgently bitchy way.

And re: "how can you tell if someone is being sincere"? No matter the intent of the complimenter, I smile and accept graciously and thankfully. If it's sincere, great; if not, I still come off as taking the high road. Never let someone with ill intentions undermine what YOU'VE decided is a fabulous outfit.

posted by leia

Aug 07, 2007 3:19PM

Sheesh, some of you need to eat a HandiSnack and then take a nap! Seriously, these posts are ridiculous! If you are so above the typical behavior of those in the fashion business, don't even come to this frikkin blog!
And I don't believe for a second that all you posters never judge others for their fashion choices...or felt forced to compliment them anyway. It happens. Get over it and get off your high horses........

posted by joana

Aug 07, 2007 3:35PM

i wanted to post again because i didn't want to come off on my comment as a bitch to you faran. that isn't the case.

i can see what you were trying to discuss. i just think it hit a nerve with a lot of people (like the people who left comments) because its something as a general, i'm sure we'd all wish we could control & eliminate.

i know i'm no saint, and lets face it neither is anyone else in this age of tabloid fodder & what not. but after reading this post it just made me sad a bit. & i know your not trying to be mean on purpose & that you're just admitting to something a lot of women do but at the same time its just cruel, don't you think?

posted by sissy_winger

Aug 07, 2007 3:36PM

It seems that most people are going to perceive that the compliment is fake. Which means if you do this you are just sabotaging your reputation as a person of discriminating taste.
People who stand out because they dress apart from the norm are people who make life more interesting. I am always impressed by the variety here in NY and would be sad if someone stopped "dressing crazy" because they found out a gaggle of fashionistas was laughing behind their back. This type of behavior is why you see a bunch of ladees all with the same boring matching black separates. A disservice to fashion, which is about experimentation.
For instance: a friend of mine once wore the strap portion of a leather luggage tag around her ankle in college. I thought it was cool that she was being so inventive, but other people were snickering about "bondage" and her friends were begging her to take it off. She never wore it again, even though she really thought it was cool.

posted by bchic11

Aug 07, 2007 3:40PM

wow Faran,

The cat claws came out on this one... Fashionistas (including bloggers) know good fashion. Even better they know bad fashion, don't encourage the later with false compliments... and secondly to your "best friend" who works at a front running magazine... the joke is really on her for hiring a tacky assistant. Your assistant (in most regards) is your gatekeeper and go to person... instead of letting the rookie drown in her poor fashion choices... drag her tacky ass out of the water and onto fashionable land! She may learn a thing or two from you.. and in return she'll make you look better!

posted by bchic11

Aug 07, 2007 3:40PM

wow Faran,

The cat claws came out on this one... Fashionistas (including bloggers) know good fashion. Even better they know bad fashion, don't encourage the later with false compliments... and secondly to your "best friend" who works at a front running magazine... the joke is really on her for hiring a tacky assistant. Your assistant (in most regards) is your gatekeeper and go to person... instead of letting the rookie drown in her poor fashion choices... drag her tacky ass out of the water and onto fashionable land! She may learn a thing or two from you.. and in return she'll make you look better!

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 3:52PM

this post is just kind of indicative of what's wrong with the blog. like others have said, it provides some news and tidbits.

HOWEVER faran is routinely rude and hostile towards commenters, who dare to disagree with her or the almost always hideous streetwalkers (the ultimate hipster trash reference). the bloggers pay lip service to the too-skinny issue, but make sure to mention they're size 0's or 2's also. they chide F21 for knockoffs, but routinely shop there (except for their seemingly precious few actual designer pieces, which they constantly and pathetically reference ie "my venetia bag," "my interview [hooker trash] louboutins," "my [ugly] prada stone sandals." we get it, you saved your $$, or better yet, had mom pay for the rent, and you \splurged. yippee. it's just extremely hypocritical on a routine basis.

i mean, how can you insult someone for having a chanel knockoff when you cop to wearing F21 and the like, home of knockoffs? it's the same thing, except maybe not as obvious. there is just a really negative attitude that pervades this website sometimes, and this post illustrates it.

is it really that hard to keep your mouth shut or just be honest? i don't claim to have never complimented something i didn't like, but it wasn't with the idea of being cruel or mocking, and i certainly don't celebrate it. regina george is a cunty bitch, and this blog kind of is, too, sometimes. at least regina has a silver lexus and two fendi purses.

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 3:57PM

also: i'm sure it's pretty demeaning to be someone assistant, especially to someone as horrible as your friend, not to mention the lack of clothing budget (if you don't have mum and dads support) which probably contributes to this girl's style. it's insanely cruel and disgraceful to laugh at someone like that behind their back and to their face, just because you can. it's such a sad, pathetic power trip. im sure your little associate editor friend really gets off on it.

posted by H

Aug 07, 2007 4:11PM

Have you ever had this many posts for anything before? I compiment things I hate all the time. You have to say something and it can't be that I hate the hideous bag, so I say I love it. Anyone who reads fashionista has to be superficial enought to not be shocked at that.

posted by Laura

Aug 07, 2007 4:11PM

Anony,ous is right. Your friend sounds like a terrible, terrible boss and an even worse person.

It seems like her assistant is earnestly trying to follow trends and fit in with a fashion conscious crowd.

Why doesn't she just give her some pointers, lend her some clothes, help her out? She should be mentoring the poor girl, not mocking her. Sooo lame.

She probably doesn't have the cash (or the knowledge) to dress in a way that her boss deems appropriate. I know that it was frustrating for me as an assistant (in another, more conservative, industry) to buy great suits on a $24,000 a year budget. I would be devastated to know my bosses were making fun of my wardrobe the entire time.

posted by Laura

Aug 07, 2007 4:12PM

Anony,ous is right. Your friend sounds like a terrible, terrible boss and an even worse person.

It seems like her assistant is earnestly trying to follow trends and fit in with a fashion conscious crowd.

Why doesn't she just give her some pointers, lend her some clothes, help her out? She should be mentoring the poor girl, not mocking her. Sooo lame.

She probably doesn't have the cash (or the knowledge) to dress in a way that her boss deems appropriate. I know that it was frustrating for me as an assistant (in another, more conservative, industry) to buy great suits on a $24,000 a year budget. I would be devastated to know my bosses were making fun of my wardrobe the entire time.

posted by claire

Aug 07, 2007 4:27PM

Another thing about Go Fug Yourself, which they explicitly state on the site, is that their snarky comments are more justified because they are aimed at people who have the money and means to buy nice, of-the-moment, flattering clothes, or at least a stylist to choose those clothes for them. It is doubly frustrating when these celebrities are praised as "fashion mavens" whether they're wearing a crisp YSL pantsuit or ill-fitting, purple suede jodhpurs.

Someone in an assistant position at a fashion magazine should probably have the sartorial sense not to interpret trends TOO literally, or all at once, but maybe they're trying to make an impression? Maybe they're wearing what they think they're supposed to, or what they feel is expected? I would say maybe they're fueled by the false compliments, but those are often very, very transparent; assuming that these girls aren't onto what you're doing may be underestimating them...

Interesting post, though.

posted by rd

Aug 07, 2007 5:34PM

LET'S ALL JUDGE HER BY WHAT SHE WEARS!! Omigosh, she's outside of what we consider "stylish," let's ridicule her in a rather transparent attempt to raise our own pathetically low self esteem!!! Have fun, girls. I'll be using my time on things that actually matter.

posted by rollergirl

Aug 07, 2007 5:37PM

Oh boy, touchy subject huh? I didn't think the post was THAT bitchy...I guess I just thought Faran was being tongue-in-cheek. As someone else said, if you read this blog regularly surely you get that it's not always about SERIOUS fashion shit, no? Jeez...

posted by Kyle

Aug 07, 2007 5:37PM

If someone has to pull 10 posts a day out of no where of course a few are going to end up on the bitchey side. I mean, have you read any blog ever? Atleast this blog doesn't have the Gawker-ish "I can't believe i blog for a living, i hate myself" attitude.

Also she's a blogger, not your BFF.

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 5:43PM

Faran you are a seriously awful person. But I suppose what can you expect from the girl who earnestly said before her first year at Duke that her goal was to become "the most popular girl at school."

And I suppose you could get away with your bitchy behaviour if you, ya know, actually dressed well. But that's the biggest joke about you, your complete lack of any fashion sense whatsoever. There's a reason all of your friends have been on sartorialist/style.com and you haven't honey.

posted by LagunaBitch

Aug 07, 2007 5:44PM

http://gawker.com/news/blue-states-lose/blue-states-lose-a-cacophony-of-coolness-231716.php

Visit #5.

Those who throw stones...

posted by guest

Aug 07, 2007 5:57PM

jeez relax

posted by Kristen

Aug 07, 2007 6:03PM

I think people give fake compliments all the time. It's worth talking about and white lies are part of our culture. But the part about this that's so ugly is that you're making fun of someone who has less than you. Fucking lame lame lame.

posted by hannah

Aug 07, 2007 6:06PM

First of all, faux-compliments are horrible. Attrociously mean. But they are fun in a bitchy way to give. However, insulting someone's fashionably innovative outfit is much meaner and bitchier than pretending to love someone's obvious fake Chanel. I frequently face this problem, as I actually follow fashion trends sometimes as opposed to most girls in my town, who dress all Abercrombie, all the time. Girls often compliment my outfits, but this one girl always faux-compliments me, but her friends (I think) usually are being sincere in their compliments, and when they all compliment me at once it gets really confusing and kind of awkward.

As far a faux-complimenting myself, I usually resist the temptation, except, for example, at the spring semi-formal, where after being complimented on my dress, I, out of politeness, returned people's compliments even if their dresses were hideous.

And really, enough Faran ad hominem! Sure, some of her replies to comments are overly defensive, but at least attack her actions instead of her appearance! You just come across as stupid otherwise.

posted by Lindsay

Aug 07, 2007 6:23PM

HA! Now I don't feel so bad about thinking you are an ugly fan girl with bad frizzy hair.

Do unto others Faran!

posted by x

Aug 07, 2007 6:24PM

it does seem a little cruel to post something like this that this particular assistant could easily see and would obviously understand...it just seems unnecessary, especially when she may not have a lot of resources...if she's literate and hard-working, her clothes shouldn't induce laughter

posted by Selon

Aug 07, 2007 6:40PM

Most people think I'm lying about being a virgin because I prefer jumbo tampons, but I can't help it if I have a heavy flow and a wide-set vagina!

Wait, that comes later right? Let me know.

posted by vicki

Aug 07, 2007 6:48PM

wow.

posted by rachel

Aug 07, 2007 7:32PM

i hope your good friend's assistant doesn't see this post. not a nice thing to do. your friend should help this girl out, and give her pointers, not laugh behind her back like that. my gosh.

posted by 4eyed girl

Aug 07, 2007 7:34PM

So how many comments are going to be deleted? If you can't answer your critics, at least let their comments stand.

posted by Faran

Aug 07, 2007 7:46PM

Hi 4eyed,

As previously stated, we delete comments that are "abusive, off topic, or overly dim." Of course, we also stated that "this is not a democracy, this is a cheerocracy," so really, anything goes.

But even with a reasonable comment policy like that, it's a miracle that more people's remarks haven't been nixed - but we do weed out the ones that involve slander, lies, or secret passwords to various Speakeasies.

As far as answering "critics," if you're really more interested in my intentions for this post and not your own reaction to it, my email is faran@fashionista.com and you're welcome to ask me anything you like. I promise I'll email you back.

--F

posted by margot

Aug 07, 2007 7:58PM

sometimes I wear something hideous (hermes silk blouse crazy print) as a joke because trend followers believe that I am really sincere. I don't call them on it, however, because I can tell it really matters to them.

maybe the joke is on you?

posted by Keisha

Aug 07, 2007 8:01PM

Maybe there is no joke. A bold Hermes blouse would look really cool with jeans and great hair, and we all do this with our friends, so it's important (and funny) that someone's willing to talk about it openly. If everything could be discussed openly, there would be less prejudice in the world and probably more sex.

posted by TB

Aug 07, 2007 8:19PM

I think openly mocking someone like that would be cruel. There's a difference between faux-complimenting someone to seem polite and faux-complimenting someone so you and your friends can have a laugh at the victim's expense. I'm pretty bitchy myself and will chat about others behind their backs but I won't actively toy with them so.

I don't think this post warrants such a cruel response though! Let's be sweet guys.

posted by WendyB

Aug 07, 2007 8:24PM

Wow! Some panties have really gotten in a knot. I can't say I'm a fan of the abusive anonymous posts. Don't see how that's exactly attaining the moral high ground here! Anyway, if I can't help but stare at someone's fashion choice for whatever reason, good or bad, of course I compliment them on it. I feel like it's impolite to gawk, even if that's the expected reaction. I've had some very interesting conversations with people as a result, including one with an elderly woman who'd made every stitch of a rather remarkable outfit. On the other hand, when I was in the corporate world, I had no problem telling someone if they were wearing something WILDLY unprofessional (tight, white, totally backless halter dress in the newsroom, anyone?) I'm not sure the subject of the initial post here falls into either category, but if this is something beyond "unique" taste...something that might hold the assistant back professionally... perhaps someone can give her a gentle nudge in the right direction.

posted by sfl

Aug 07, 2007 8:26PM

what happened to the furla thong?

posted by GERALD

Aug 07, 2007 8:27PM

omg....

can most of you just chill out, and get over this? it was clearly meant to be a mean girls/devil wears prada moment.

i really hope most of you get this serious when it comes to world hunger, or presedential elections. because- can you stop and ask yourself what the hell you're arguing about? pointttttttttlessssss

anyways- i'm going to go on and actually answer the question faran asked: Yes! i knew i wasnt the only person who did this... ;)

(and for everyone who doesnt work in the "industry" fyi: TONS of people do this) its fun. ha-ha-ha-ha

so its ok to have sites that praise streetstyle/office style? but we cant snicker at the few hits that miss? PLEASE

youre all saying you've NEVER seen anyone and thought "omg...what is she wearing??..." and you stare. and stare. and stare. untill finally you realize she sees you starring so you say "oh, nice dress" HELLO. everyone does this shit

but ofcourse, faran and I are worse.

we even LOVE to make fun of what homeless children in thirdworlds are wearing. sometimes we even say stuff like "wow, you must never eat! youre so thin...jealous" then we dance all night till we cant breath in laughter, like mcqueen!

oh oh oh and there is this girl i intern with. AMAZING. its amazing...what she shows up to work in. i never know what to say, so i just compliment her. i dont even laugh. im actually stunned that she believes me....i might pull her aside oneday and snatch her something from the closet (if im feeling nice, duh) but its so great and totally makes my day!

PS. what does this post have to do with hair? everyone whos anyone knows thats like, a totally different subject. AND BTW sienna LOVES farans hair...so does mario testino. Paula abdul even got her hair permed just to be like faran. so yeah.

PSS. if "faux compliments" really bother all of you that much, please feel free to send me digital pictures (i'll even accept myspace urls) and i PROMISE faran and i will respond with %100 honest opinions.

^_^ cheers!

posted by Another Editor

Aug 07, 2007 8:28PM

It's funny that this has gotten so much anger. We do this all the time at magazines, say we like something so we don't look rude when we're caught, agape and shocked, that someone would wear it.

My colleagues and I actually do it a lot, but with one of our bosses!

You have to understand it's not like we lock ourselves in a room and whisper about how hideous everyone looks and then laugh. We just mention it sometimes and move on. It's not a great habit, but it's private, not evil, and much more common than you think.

I'm glad for this post because it's honest and open, something the fashion industry sorely needs.

posted by Jac

Aug 07, 2007 8:41PM

This is why women don't get ahead. We're petty and catty and vicious to eachother. Not just Faran, but all the girls who called her ugly. Damn 94 comments of this embarrassment.

posted by Rose

Aug 07, 2007 9:34PM

Have you ever considered banning anonymous comments? Or at least requiring email addresses or something? At the very least I hope you've deleted half these people. I mean, really...if these comments weren't so awful, obscene, and abusive (and apparently religiously discriminatory now), the absolute irony of them would allllllmost be funny. It's hard to take the righteousness for the injured-by-faux-compliments seriously when it's shrouded in insults and personal vicious attacks.

posted by Faran

Aug 07, 2007 9:44PM

Hey Rose,

We have a redesign coming up, which also includes a registration process for comments.

We also have faith that most of our readers (most of the time) are really smart, cool people who are entitled to their opinions and their questions.

Every once in a while, a post provokes a bunch of craziness, and then it goes away.

We've moved on, and hopefully you will too - especially since tomorrow, there are going to be some killer posts about discount Chloe, Jill Stuart's upcoming collection, and an interview with Anna Sui.

We were also promised some exclusive never-before-seen photos of Sean Combs and his new womens collection, but we'll believe it when we see it.

:) xoxoxoxo

posted by elena

Aug 07, 2007 10:34PM

lol Gerald. Don't get caught up in the pettiness. Life is not complete if sienna miller loves your hair. There is just too much bull shit out there. The comments here are pretty hateful, but what do you expect with such a negative post?!

posted by Traci

Aug 07, 2007 10:53PM

"like watching a kitten try to climb stairs, you know? It's really cute and endearing right now, and you know that it'll eventually be a cat and bounding up them two at a time. But that's a condescending way of looking at the girl."

Katie, I like the way you explained this - at first I agreed that "condescending" took away from your post, but seeing how you meant it (with that super cute analogy) - well, okay, I get where you're coming from with that :)

Also - who the hell said you have to say ANYTHING about someone's outfit? If someone bounds up to you in a truly heinous outfit and ASKS if you like it, there has to be something positive you can comment on. The bejeweled Ray-Bans? May be over the top, but damn it, it sounds like that girl likes fashion and trends, likes to have fun with it, and is probably a shitload nicer, more fun, and more genuine than you Fashionista girls. Normally I liked this blog (until the introduction of the interns) but sheesh, it's just gotten bitchier and bitchier every day.

posted by Courtney

Aug 07, 2007 11:44PM

Frankly I do think this post was funny. And while I don't make a habit of the false compliment, they have popped out on occasion. It's not being bitchy, it's having poor communication between brain and mouth.

posted by vicki

Aug 08, 2007 12:23AM

i have laughed at most these comments and the post itself. i was just in the gym ragging on this girl who was wearing too short short and a tank top with no bra running! (and she's fat). and i felt catty but eh i dont care

posted by Destiny

Aug 08, 2007 2:34AM

There is just nothing wrong with this post.Everybody know anyway that the fashion industry and WOMEN are bichy.

I always have an opinion about somebody's clothes but that doesn't mean that I'm gonna go and tell her I like it...then this poor girls walk around the whole year wearing that and thinking they're ql.White lies are just 2 much mean for me.I prefer good old gossip.

I think the post it's just a reflection of what we know is happening.

I have been given the most compliments by friends of my boyfriend....later to discover that they were just trying make fun of me,because I didn't have fake blond hair,fake nails with french manicure and dress like a whore.
THEY found me very unfashionable:))

Hope you get the irony....

posted by sll

Aug 08, 2007 2:49AM

faran -

tonite after a long vacation from fashionista i clicked through from gawker to read your latest judgmental lapse.

i really don't care how you look, how you dress, how you wear your hair, or how toxic your halitosis may be. i only care about how you blog, and as the many comments before this one attest, your time is up.

as a "fashion blogger," you're supposed to be sizing up the fashion industry and criticizing its rotten excesses. you're not supposed to endorse its worst tendencies, act as a megaphone for them, and instruct your readers to follow.

the multiple negative reactions here aren't only because you've exposed yourself as a nasty person. you've also shown us that, given the opportunity, you're all too happy to emulate the creeps in power.

try and sharpen your wit so you can write ad copy for your friends but give up the blogging because you've jumped the shark.

posted by Bridget

Aug 08, 2007 3:23AM

I read Gawker everyday for it's sharp, witty, and excellent writing. When they made a post about this site I thought: Who in the world would stab their own assistant in the back?
Faran, she's an assistant - she's learning. You however, should know better. The quality of a person isn't merely how one decorates themselves - it's how they've helped others. I'm sure that assistant is smart enough to figure out how to use you're shortcomings to her advantage.
I've never seen your site before the Gawker post. But I will never visit it again.

posted by gl

Aug 08, 2007 3:25AM

"nasty person" and Faran" have no business in the same sentence. Sit next to faran for 10 mins and you will realize the greatness that she can wield...haters suck ass. faran does not. Opinion keeps this blog running- it keeps this blog interesting. FARAN is the voice and the heartbeat. If you have a problem with her observations I suggest you click away or just crawl into a corner and get fat. No one is forcing you to read what she writes..

posted by kidding me?

Aug 08, 2007 3:53AM

I can't believe someone reads Gawker for "sharp, witty, and excellent writing." It started out that way, sure. But now it just makes my skin crawl.

posted by Alison Cool

Aug 08, 2007 3:58AM

Gym teacher hair sounds pretty hot to me.

As for the fake compliments, I give and I receive. I've actually heard people laughing at my outfits on the street! But when I get the fakey compliments, scorn, or mockery, I interpret them as the other person's sad lack of understanding of the fact that part of being fashionable is about not caring what other people think and being willing to take a risk. And if your outfit misfires sometimes, so be it. At least people will remember who you are, even if it's as 'the girl with the crazy outfits.' That sounds better to me than just another anonymous person on the subway in the 'right' jeans and all of 'this season's must-haves' that no one will remember.

The reason celebrities only wear lame-o boring gowns to the Oscars and other big events is because they're too afraid of what the media is going to say and would rather play it safe by wearing the same old thing that everyone else is wearing than trying something new that hasn't already been approved by all the 'people who count.'

Of course, if you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen. The fashion industry is not exactly a warm and snuggly place.

You've got to admire anyone who has the attitude and confidence to put herself out there on the mean streets of fashion, nay-sayers be damned. And Faran definitely pulls it off - hello, she is 26, runs her own successful fashion blog, and as for criticism - from anonymous commenters or otherwise - she tosses it aside with a flip of her hot 'gym-teacher hair' and marches on in her Chloe wedges.

posted by Gisele

Aug 08, 2007 7:29AM

"But when I get the fakey compliments, scorn, or mockery, I interpret them as the other person's sad lack of understanding of the fact that part of being fashionable is about not caring what other people think and being willing to take a risk"-This describes the fashion editor and faran when they laugh at the fashion assistant, Alison.

posted by K.

Aug 08, 2007 7:34AM

Gawker and its baby sites are pure evil. I love how they were like sorry Faran we love you but we're going to explode your mini scandal as far as it will go. Nice friends! Gawker was good until Choire left the first time but now the taste is way way off.

posted by Brendastarlet

Aug 08, 2007 8:33AM

Great job, Faran, this will make you famous. I see you on CNN Showbiz and The Daily Ten before nightfall, followed in, say 10 days, by an AP story (the white middle aged guys there will hear about it from their daughters this weekend, which is usually how they catch on to news.)

And then, that guest shot on Ugly Betty as "the woman who made fun of Betty on the Web" can't be far behind.

You're a strategic thinker who made the most of the dog days of summer. Kudos!

posted by Gisele

Aug 08, 2007 8:43AM

Hey Brenda. I felt the same way-they are probably super excited by all of the attention, and will try to pitch her own reality show as a result. This is how things work.

posted by Erica

Aug 08, 2007 10:52AM

I have done the same thing because when you are staring at someone you don't want to seem rude. Obviously the person that makes this blog likes fashion and wanted to get a closer look at a fake bag, big deal.

posted by GG

Aug 08, 2007 11:52AM

This is so blown out of proportion. Gawker very bitchily called out an assistant at Prada, Yara, who is rail-thin, and dissed her outfit and said she looked "preggers" and it became this prolonged thing like six months ago or something. I wish people would take their annoying fake moral high ground somewhere else.

posted by fabulousgirl

Aug 08, 2007 1:17PM

my god i feel like i'm back in middle school. girls did the reverse compliment when i was in seventh grade. all it does is make you look immature. i was not one of those girls, which means that not EVERYONE does it. if you dont' like someones ensemble, don't say anything. or if you NEED to say something, say"wow that's different" people usually get the hint... and didn't your mother ever tell you not to stare?

posted by Eric

Aug 08, 2007 3:53PM

I think this post took a lot of guts. Perhaps she didn't say so explicitly, but there is some sort of guilt or at least acknowledgment of hypocrisy in this anecdote. The end is tinged with "Wait, this is probably happening to me, too."

On other blogs, commentors usually cheer the author for airing such ugly feelings or actions - it shows that they're human and recognize faults. What is it about fashionista.com that makes the commentors so much more ready to attack?

posted by ashley

Aug 08, 2007 4:25PM

Kinda silly to make fun of fashion assistants, when most of the people who read this blog are the assistants and the interns...NOT their bosses.

posted by i dont just like you. i like you, like you.

Aug 08, 2007 4:32PM

STAY STRONG FARAN!

posted by tried

Aug 08, 2007 5:30PM

go to the blue states lose post linked above and ask yourself if that is not the outfit of a person frightened to take risks

posted by G

Aug 08, 2007 5:35PM

Yeah, she's so afraid to take risks, she turned down a job at Glamour to start a fashion blog. Wow what a fraidy cat.

posted by bun

Aug 08, 2007 5:38PM

Wow, in junior high much?

When your mind becomes this tiny, self-absorbed and infantile, it might be time to consider some volunteer work for perspective.

posted by HR is knocking

Aug 08, 2007 5:52PM

Unless her assistant is dressing inappropriately (showing too much skin, soiled garments, or items with offensive slogans printed on them) it is not necessary, constructive, or productive for your friend to comment upon the woman's clothes, and it is not your place at all, you not being this woman's boss or working associate. Both of you need to back off.

posted by guest

Aug 08, 2007 5:55PM

I wonder what HR would say about obsessively commenting under day-old posts... seems like a far worse offense...

posted by Mr. Whiskers

Aug 08, 2007 9:36PM

Faran: I think it's really unfair that Gawker posted a link to this story which delivered a lot of commenters who were already in the frame of mind to hate on you.

I enjoy reading Gawker most of the time, but I have to laugh about how pretentious their commenting policy is. For your enjoyment, I wrote this little expose:

Pulling Back the Curtain...

In order to join that exclusive club of Gawker commenters, wannabes must first prove their wit. You may wonder just how impressive your comments need to be in order to satisfy the discriminating tastes of the Gawker editors and audience.

A Domino magazine article about furniture inspired this priceless bit of repartee:

IBENTMYWOOKIE: My china hutch is an original Ceacesceau. Jealous?

LOLCAIT: Did you guys get that stuff from the Pol Pottery Barn?

COLE: They didn't leave it, I wasn't Darfur the delivery.

LOLCAIT: Too busy smoking Janjaweed, huh?

COLE: You got me, do you Rwanda some?

LOLCAIT: They took so long to deliver my piece by Khmer, you know, the rouge one. I called them and told them to quit Stalin.

IBENTMYWOOKIE: the best part is that I don't even have to pay extra for the inStalin.

MATHNET: My Dachau shower is worth every pfennig. I'm Nazi kidding.

LOLCAIT: Not to Mussolini on your territory, but you Hague me in stitches.

Bwaahahahaha! This type of side-splitting banter goes on over there all day long. You should see how many puns they can make from various types of cheese!

posted by Aja

Aug 08, 2007 11:21PM

If all of you (who decided to say nasty things about Faran), can really honestly say you've never given someone a funny look for an over-the-top outfit. . . I'm gonna say, I call bullshit on each and everyone of you. I mean even those who consider themselves fashion forward, are not immune to snickering when some girl in an outfit bearing too much skin walks by. . .

I'm from the DC area and in high school/college people always looked at my outfits and laughed or gave me dirty looks. I'm really not that over-the-top, but people from DC generally fall on the conservative side of things. (It happened just yesterday when I was standing on a train platform). It's something I've gotten used to. Although I agree (and speak from personal experience), that it's not nice at all. . . it's made me a better, stronger person. I dress to please myself and not others. Instead of giving someone a strange look for wearing something that's not quite my style, I certainly applaud them on being daring and ahead of the game. I love seeing people who refuse to blend in. My parents make fun of what I wear with great energy. . . but it's become a joke between us.

Now can we all stop being so overly sensitive and stop bullying Faran for just calling attention to something EVERYONE does? If you ladies can't take a little gentle chiding. . . good luck in any career!

PS- What's up with all the people who post and won't leave an email or a link to their blog. . . a little cowardly in my opinion. . .

posted by Bonnie Lass

Aug 09, 2007 12:45AM

I really wish my job would quit interfering with my Fashionista time. I miss ALL the good cat fights! (At least when I'm not starting them ...)

And, Mr. Whiskers: GET THE FUCK BACK IN YOUR ROOM!

posted by Elaine

Aug 30, 2007 7:04PM

Sometimes I do find myself staring at someone who is really, really badly dressed--but if you try hard enough, you usually can find something good. Like if she's wearing a hideous dress, I find something good, like "your shoes are really cute," because they usually are, so I don't have to lie.

posted by lailani

Sep 22, 2007 2:52AM

style is all about putting things together.
if you work for a design company and
someone has an ugly betty complex
challenge yourself to look at the intelect
of the person not their lack of style.
try and get the person to have a style makeover including heel height and eyebrows. talk about hair style and products.get a stylist to talk to them
about buying the 5$rack when the thing dates easily try and get them to do some
investment dressing.do you really need those fake nails when you type and file.
get them to look at themself and look at the full picture. then they might improove.

posted by nadya linder

Oct 31, 2007 12:01PM

Well, actually Ladies I really don't give a dam what anyone has to say about any outfit I wear. For the simple fact that I do what the hell I wanna do when I wanna do it! I am not the riches tperson in the world, and I am broke most of the time, but when I get dressed in my favorite colars and favorite things, I don't care if Beyonce is outside and we are side by side I think of myself as the baddest Bitch out here and no one can tell me different!

posted by guest

Jan 20, 2008 7:20PM

Well, the key is not to be bothered about other people´s opinion. what matter the most is your own opinion of yourself. Recognize that you can never control what other people think - just your reaction towards other people. Im told that my clothing style is "wild" and I dont care what it means, I just love my style ;)

Ásta from Iceland